Tiny birds' eggs - “Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold -- but so does a hard-boiled egg.”They call it a "trouble box." It is a brightly colored, egg-sized box found among natives of Guatemala. Inside are placed six tiny dolls. Families often keep one inside their homes. When trouble befalls a family member, the disturbed person takes out one of the tiny dolls and talks the problem over with it. Then the doll is set aside and the problem forgotten.
If another difficulty comes up that same day, another doll is selected to "listen." Each doll is then set aside to mull over the situation. Finally, at the end of every day, the dolls are gathered and replaced in the box, ready for tomorrow.
The idea sounds intriguing! One doll for one problem. And it makes psychological sense. Many of our troubles cannot be acted upon immediately and just become a source of destructive worry. But if we can sufficiently talk through a problem and then, if no action is required, set it aside, we can go about the business of living unencumbered.
The formula is simple: a) talk through the problem, either with a caring friend or by yourself; b) if it requires action, do what must be done; and c) if no action is called for, then set it aside and
focus your energies in more productive areas. Talk. Act. Move on.
Remember, worry is not the same as healthy concern. Worry is like a rocking chair -- it gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere. Decide to worry less, and you may find yourself living more!
From Lifesupport.
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